Having good sex is an act of giving and receiving. It’s a combination of involving the sensory organs, feelings and thoughts.
1. No place for inhibitions
Sad but true – some people feel awkward about sex. This unfortunately applies more often to women. Generally this happens because women have been so raised to believe that nice girls don’t behave in a sleazy way. Let’s get one thing straight – enjoying your self and flaunting your stuff in the sex act is not being sleazy – it’s called having good sex.
If you really can’t bear to show your sexy feelings because you can still see your mother giving you disapproving looks then I suggest that you remind your self you’re an adult now and this is your life.
Do what feels sexy for you – I do advise you ask your partner what turns them on. Don’t feel shy about asking.
If you feel less inhibited in the darkness then leave the lights off.
2. Be Adventurous
Take the opportunity of exploring every inch of your partner.
Stroke and kiss every where. You can take turns.
Start with the feet up.
Have you ever examined your partner’s toes? Do you even know how sexy toes are? This is a sensational feeling for the receiver and interesting for the giver.
3. Let Go
Nothing is more sex killing than worry. Stop worrying about every thing. I’ve noticed that again women tend to worry more than men. Don’t think about what pose makes your breasts look firmer or your legs longer. Rather switch off the light and go for it than be exposed to worry about how your body is looking and whether your partner finds it attractive.
4. Toys & Games
Some people think that using toys must mean there is some thing wrong with them. There is nothing wrong with using toys to enhance love making. It does not mean that the woman is frigid or the man can’t get it up.
You can use toys to explore and discover new sensations. And you don’t only have to use actual sex toys from a sex shop.
A feather can drive a person wild.
Another thing you can do is to blind fold your partner and lightly tickle their body with different objects and ask them if they can guess what it is and ask them how it feels.
Lightly stroke the back of your partner’s legs and inner thighs with a soft bristle hair brush. Watch what happens.
5. Contraception & Protection
The consequences of intercourse must always be considered before having sex. When partaking in sex for pleasure there should be no worry in the back of your mind that you may conceive a baby or contract a disease.
If you’re not in a committed and monogamous relationship with your partner don’t be mislead to believe stories like I’ll just put it in a little, I’m not fertile, I’ve had a vasectomy or I’m clean.
Last but not least
A so called quickie is generally favored by males. Women prefer to be romanced and fore played into sex.
A positive sexual experience is one that is rewarding to both partners.
Learning how to have good sex should be a priority in a love relationship. If at first it doesn’t happen then read a good sex book and experiment on your own or with your partner till you find your magic buttons.
Good sex is like a good meal – it is savored and leaves you satisfied.
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