Why you Shouldn’t Sleep with Him on the First Date
Why you Shouldn’t sleep with a Man on the First Date.
I know the title of this article will cause some ladies to turn up their noses in disbelief of what I’m writing because after all we’re living in a liberated age and it is 2008 already. Plus I have written before hand on how to have good sex, how to seduce a man, how to flirt with men and so forth.
Now I’m suggesting you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date.
What’s going on here?, you may be asking yourself.
What’s going on is that a man thinks, “she’s too easy.” Even if you’re connecting really well and you feel like you’ve known him for a hundred years on the first date I’m suggesting that you should not take that step.
Why I’m suggesting this is because I want to protect you from getting hurt and not because I want to uphold a false sense of morals. I’m not square and I’m not holy. I’m a full blooded woman who has also made the mistake of bedding a man too soon.
The point is that all the women I have spoken to on the subject of dating men have revealed to me that they sleep with men on the first date because they feel so connected. They also admit that they feel terribly hurt when he never calls again. I know I’ve been in that place before.
The reason he doesn’t call again is because he got what he wanted. The men I have interviewed have all told me that well if they can get sex they won’t say no.
Men are designed by nature to want sex whereas women want love and think by having sex they’re partaking in love.
It’s confusing I know. In some cases having sex the first time doesn’t mean he won’t call you but it can mean that it will be a relationship based on only connecting sexually. That’s fine if you want that but if you’re looking to meet a man that you can enter into a committed relationship with then you’ll require something more than just a sexual attraction.
I’m not even putting a time line on when you should have sex for the first time because in truth individuals are all different and relationships develop differently.
All I ask of you is to think whether you want him to call again or whether you want to be the one night stander. The chances are that even if you don’t sleep with him the first time is that he won’t call you again anyway. But then won’t you be glad that you didn’t sleep with him? And don’t go thinking he didn’t call you again because you didn’t sleep with him.
Not going to bed with him the first time is a sign of self respect.
Most people forget what sex actually is. In the bible it’s referred to as the becoming of one flesh. Bodily fluids are being exchanged on the most intimate levels. Do you really want to chemicalise with some body you don’t know that well yet?
I see it this way: my body is the temple of my soul - I’m just not going to let anybody in there until I know what their intentions are.
Me, I personally have been in a committed relationship for over 5 years now but remember only even kissing him for the first time when I knew that the friend ship was bonded.
I know there is a lot of seduction advice especially for men. They teach men to not be one of those men where women say, “let’s just be friends.” Rather they teach men how to seduce a woman so that she succumbs and goes to bed with him as quickly as possible.
For me personally friendship is important - I want the man I’m sleeping with to be my friend as well. I can’t imagine having a good relationship with a man that is only based on sex. Believe me, I was there for many years - waiting for him. When he did visit all we did was have sex. Those were not happy years.
So next time you meet a wonderful man and get that connected feeling just remember what you read today in this blog.
Video of the Day:
Women that F**k on the first Date
Now that you’ve had a man’s point of view I trust you won’t think I’m such a square!
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