Comments on: How to Seduce a Married Man http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/ Men, Love & Sex Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:36:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: admin http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3611 admin Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:36:19 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3611 Hello Angela, You are doing the right thing to have left this man. If he wanted you that badly he would have left his wife. In my opinion nobody is ever obligated to another person. If you are not with somebody out of free will the relationship is damaged. Forget this man and go find yourself some body that is available for you. And as for his wife approaching you - I've been there - I wrote about it <a href="http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/02/confessions-from-the-other-woman/" rel="nofollow">here</a>. Thanks for visiting. Hello Angela,

You are doing the right thing to have left this man. If he wanted you that badly he would have left his wife.

In my opinion nobody is ever obligated to another person. If you are not with somebody out of free will the relationship is damaged. Forget this man and go find yourself some body that is available for you.

And as for his wife approaching you – I’ve been there – I wrote about it here.

Thanks for visiting.

]]> By: Angela Simon http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3608 Angela Simon Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:27:16 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3608 Hi, happy to read your advice, I was involved with a man who is in a relationship for 20 years. (broke it off 2 wks ago but we still talk to each other on the phone)we were involved for a year, of course we feel like soulmates, but i'm concerned about hesitance to leave. According to him he is afraid because tho he's cheated before he's never fallen in love with the other woman. he claims to feel "obligated" to his woman for sticking by him all these years and forgiving him everytime for his affairs. His indicisiveness is making me sick! he is such a coward. Right now i feel like i want him to leave me alone once and for all, cut off all communication. his feeling obligated makes me think that if eventually breaks up with her, he will then feel "obligated" for breaking her heart. There's also a child involved who is always at his beck and call. The woman's family is the type that likes trouble, she has already come to my house to question me before wen she saw me in his car. she reminded me of who he lives with and that she does not share her man. She also met him while he was married to someone else. am i doing the right thing? Hi, happy to read your advice, I was involved with a man who is in a relationship for 20 years. (broke it off 2 wks ago but we still talk to each other on the phone)we were involved for a year, of course we feel like soulmates, but i’m concerned about hesitance to leave. According to him he is afraid because tho he’s cheated before he’s never fallen in love with the other woman. he claims to feel “obligated” to his woman for sticking by him all these years and forgiving him everytime for his affairs. His indicisiveness is making me sick! he is such a coward. Right now i feel like i want him to leave me alone once and for all, cut off all communication. his feeling obligated makes me think that if eventually breaks up with her, he will then feel “obligated” for breaking her heart. There’s also a child involved who is always at his beck and call. The woman’s family is the type that likes trouble, she has already come to my house to question me before wen she saw me in his car. she reminded me of who he lives with and that she does not share her man. She also met him while he was married to someone else. am i doing the right thing?

]]> By: admin http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3569 admin Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:34:21 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3569 Hi Jennifer, Well I sure am glad that you have decided to move on. You will see how much joy kids can give you. A man is not always the answer. And I've noticed it's the women that get on with life and have a happy out look who attract happy and secure men. Take care. Hi Jennifer,

Well I sure am glad that you have decided to move on. You will see how much joy kids can give you. A man is not always the answer. And I’ve noticed it’s the women that get on with life and have a happy out look who attract happy and secure men.

Take care.

]]> By: jennifer http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3567 jennifer Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:57:04 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3567 Hi Claudia, Thank you very much for your advice. It has been two weekd since I don't speak or talk to him again. He has not tried to contact me in any way. I am a little disapoined as I really thought we had something special. I guess that goes to tell me that he never loved me the way I loved him... I am doing really good now that I moved on and focusing on my family. I guess even if we were soulmates and me and him were meant to be together . It does not matter anymore since we both have our situations and obligations. I don't think he cares much for his wife since he has cheated on her before and he also claimed to not feel any guilt when he did so. I truly believe he is a very unhappily married man as he spends most of his time at work and very sporadic does he and his wife spend time together. I never asked him if he would leave her for me. But something in my heart tells me he would not cheat on me (I know.. Foolish on my side) but I truly do believe I have a good man by my side and would do anything for me, and it's too late for both of us to try anything again. Hi Claudia,
Thank you very much for your advice. It has been two weekd since I don’t speak or talk to him again. He has not tried to contact me in any way. I am a little disapoined as I really thought we had something special. I guess that goes to tell me that he never loved me the way I loved him… I am doing really good now that I moved on and focusing on my family. I guess even if we were soulmates and me and him were meant to be together . It does not matter anymore since we both have our situations and obligations. I don’t think he cares much for his wife since he has cheated on her before and he also claimed to not feel any guilt when he did so. I truly believe he is a very unhappily married man as he spends most of his time at work and very sporadic does he and his wife spend time together. I never asked him if he would leave her for me. But something in my heart tells me he would not cheat on me (I know.. Foolish on my side) but I truly do believe I have a good man by my side and would do anything for me, and it’s too late for both of us to try anything again.

]]> By: admin http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3564 admin Tue, 09 Feb 2010 08:56:34 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3564 Hello Jennifer; Thanks for stopping by. Let's look at the situation - your husband is prepared to forget and forgive which shows he is a good man and must really appreciate you. You have 2 young kids with him. Would you really want to leave your husband for a man that is married to another woman? What would happen to your kids, would you take them with? How will you explain to them that you are leaving daddy to go and be with another man? If this other man is prepared to leave his wife and commit to you then that changes things. Would this other man love your kids like they were his own? What if after a couple of months you realise it was only hot passion and daily life is unbearable with him? Would it have been worth all the unhappiness it caused the family? Why doesn't he want drama with your husband? What about drama with his wife? And just think if he had an affair with you whilst he was married to her - it means he could have an affair with another woman whilst he is with you. You say he craves to be a father. Has he had his sperm count tested? Often when women don't conceive it also an issue with the man. You say your heart is with the other man and some people just end up with the wrong people. The reason they end up with the wrong people is because they don't think about what they want in a relationship in the first place. They just settle for any relationship, rather than giving it some thought before hand. I know my reply may seem hard and cruel. If you are unhappy with your husband then leave him, but not because you want to dive into another relationship which may not be the real thing either. Sincerely Claudia Hello Jennifer;

Thanks for stopping by. Let’s look at the situation – your husband is prepared to forget and forgive which shows he is a good man and must really appreciate you. You have 2 young kids with him.

Would you really want to leave your husband for a man that is married to another woman? What would happen to your kids, would you take them with? How will you explain to them that you are leaving daddy to go and be with another man? If this other man is prepared to leave his wife and commit to you then that changes things. Would this other man love your kids like they were his own? What if after a couple of months you realise it was only hot passion and daily life is unbearable with him? Would it have been worth all the unhappiness it caused the family?

Why doesn’t he want drama with your husband? What about drama with his wife? And just think if he had an affair with you whilst he was married to her – it means he could have an affair with another woman whilst he is with you.

You say he craves to be a father. Has he had his sperm count tested? Often when women don’t conceive it also an issue with the man.

You say your heart is with the other man and some people just end up with the wrong people. The reason they end up with the wrong people is because they don’t think about what they want in a relationship in the first place. They just settle for any relationship, rather than giving it some thought before hand.

I know my reply may seem hard and cruel. If you are unhappy with your husband then leave him, but not because you want to dive into another relationship which may not be the real thing either.

Sincerely
Claudia

]]> By: jennifer http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3562 jennifer Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:13:07 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3562 Hi, I have a simimilar story to the ones posted abvove . I have been knowing this guy for abou two years now the firt time I saw him I knew this was the man of my dreams and that he was the one who was meant to be my husband. We met at work he got me a higher position at the company we both worked at and we got to know eachother for over a year. We had been flirting and my feelings for him got stronger over time. Here is the facts; we are both married I have two girls 4 and 5. He has no kids. His wife and him have been trying to have children since they have been married. He loves children they cannot conceive. So we got entangled in an affair, we moved really fast and started having sex. After the second time being intimate he came inside me and claimed it was an accident. I want to know why he would do that if he says he loves his wife and does not plan on leaving her? Would he be so sick to have a child with the woman on the side and not leave his wife to raise his child? Or could it be that he truly loves me and wants to see if he can have a child with me and that way I could leave my husband and then he would leave his wife and we could start a family together? I did not get pregnant. My husband found out about our affair and he called him and threatened him in many ways. The other man was very upset with me and did not want to speak to me. I tottally understand as it was my fault my husband found out. So i quit my job about a week ago and before I left I told him that I had just realized I was deeply in love with him. He said he wanted to see me again but did not want any drama with my husband. I asked to meet him one time after work and he asked me how were things at home for me and how I was doing. We made out and then he had to go. He has not contacted me ever since (about a week) since we both agreed that I would do the contacting since he does not want any problems with my husband. But I know that when a man loves a woman he will move heaven and earth to be with her. I have been able to keep myself from contacting him since I don't have to see him everyday and I'm sure it will be easy to stay away. My question is what if we were really soulmates and meant to be together? What if I try this again and I get pregnant this time will we be able to ever be truly happy since he craves to be a father? Me and my husband have managed to make things work and he wants to forgive and forget. But my heart still belongs to the other guy. My love is patient and I know one day we will meet again and we will both be available but I truly believe he is not happy with her and we were meant to be together. Some people just end up with the wrong people and is it so bad that I'm the one who wants to pursue this? Hi, I have a simimilar story to the ones posted abvove . I have been knowing this guy for abou two years now the firt time I saw him I knew this was the man of my dreams and that he was the one who was meant to be my husband. We met at work he got me a higher position at the company we both worked at and we got to know eachother for over a year. We had been flirting and my feelings for him got stronger over time. Here is the facts; we are both married I have two girls 4 and 5. He has no kids. His wife and him have been trying to have children since they have been married. He loves children they cannot conceive. So we got entangled in an affair, we moved really fast and started having sex. After the second time being intimate he came inside me and claimed it was an accident. I want to know why he would do that if he says he loves his wife and does not plan on leaving her? Would he be so sick to have a child with the woman on the side and not leave his wife to raise his child? Or could it be that he truly loves me and wants to see if he can have a child with me and that way I could leave my husband and then he would leave his wife and we could start a family together? I did not get pregnant. My husband found out about our affair and he called him and threatened him in many ways. The other man was very upset with me and did not want to speak to me. I tottally understand as it was my fault my husband found out. So i quit my job about a week ago and before I left I told him that I had just realized I was deeply in love with him. He said he wanted to see me again but did not want any drama with my husband. I asked to meet him one time after work and he asked me how were things at home for me and how I was doing. We made out and then he had to go. He has not contacted me ever since (about a week) since we both agreed that I would do the contacting since he does not want any problems with my husband. But I know that when a man loves a woman he will move heaven and earth to be with her. I have been able to keep myself from contacting him since I don’t have to see him everyday and I’m sure it will be easy to stay away. My question is what if we were really soulmates and meant to be together? What if I try this again and I get pregnant this time will we be able to ever be truly happy since he craves to be a father? Me and my husband have managed to make things work and he wants to forgive and forget. But my heart still belongs to the other guy. My love is patient and I know one day we will meet again and we will both be available but I truly believe he is not happy with her and we were meant to be together. Some people just end up with the wrong people and is it so bad that I’m the one who wants to pursue this?

]]> By: admin http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3549 admin Thu, 04 Feb 2010 10:04:46 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3549 Dear Sarah, Firstly thanks for visiting my website. Secondly you say you are 18 and involved with a man who is 36. Besides him being nearly 20 years older than you, he is also married. You say you don't want to loose him, but what is he doing to keep you? Nothing. I know it is easier said than done, but please stop agonizing over this man. He is betraying his wife which is a sign of disloyalty, and at the same time he is betraying you. Just think if he is doing this to her it means he would do it to you to, if you were married to him. You need to get in tune with yourself. Figure out what makes you happy. Happy women get the happy men. If i were you I would forget about him. It may hurt now but the pain will recede. There are wonderful young available men out there. A good book to read is <strong><a href="You need to get in tune with yourself. Figure out what makes you happy. Happy women get the happy men. If i were you I would forget about him. It may hurt now but the pain will recede. There are wonderful young available men out there. A good book to read is <strong rel="nofollow">How To Find the Man of Your Dreams</strong><a href="http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/dreamman.html" rel="nofollow"> Dear Sarah,

Firstly thanks for visiting my website. Secondly you say you are 18 and involved with a man who is 36. Besides him being nearly 20 years older than you, he is also married. You say you don’t want to loose him, but what is he doing to keep you? Nothing.

I know it is easier said than done, but please stop agonizing over this man. He is betraying his wife which is a sign of disloyalty, and at the same time he is betraying you. Just think if he is doing this to her it means he would do it to you to, if you were married to him.

You need to get in tune with yourself. Figure out what makes you happy. Happy women get the happy men. If i were you I would forget about him. It may hurt now but the pain will recede. There are wonderful young available men out there. A good book to read is How To Find the Man of Your Dreams

]]> By: sarah http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3548 sarah Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:10:53 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3548 Hi i'm 18 and i love a 36 yrs old married man with 2 kids...:) i do love him and i do wanna be with him, but i also love his kids and his wife, their so sweet...and i really don't know what to do, i don't wanna be such a bitch and also don't wanna loose him and just forget everything about him... plz help me, i'm so confused... Hi
i’m 18 and i love a 36 yrs old married man with 2 kids…:)
i do love him and i do wanna be with him, but i also love his kids and his wife, their so sweet…and i really don’t know what to do, i don’t wanna be such a bitch and also don’t wanna loose him and just forget everything about him…
plz help me, i’m so confused…

]]> By: admin http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3529 admin Mon, 25 Jan 2010 09:43:06 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3529 Hmmm besides him being married, I would tell you this even if he was single: let men call you - I know it sounds very old fashioned but if a man has said he'll call you then leave it up to him. I recommend you read Mini Tanners <strong><a href="http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/callingmen.html" rel="nofollow">Calling Men</a></strong>, she explains how men are wired and what they mean when they say something. In all honesty I would forget this man - it looks like you will always be the one waiting for him. You will get hurt because you will always be the other woman he is secretive about. I have never known a woman who did not get emotionally attached, unless of course she is in the business of selling sexual favors. Hmmm besides him being married, I would tell you this even if he was single: let men call you – I know it sounds very old fashioned but if a man has said he’ll call you then leave it up to him. I recommend you read Mini Tanners Calling Men, she explains how men are wired and what they mean when they say something.

In all honesty I would forget this man – it looks like you will always be the one waiting for him. You will get hurt because you will always be the other woman he is secretive about. I have never known a woman who did not get emotionally attached, unless of course she is in the business of selling sexual favors.

]]> By: Anna http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/2009/05/how-to-seduce-a-married-man/comment-page-1/#comment-3525 Anna Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:09:22 +0000 http://www.howtoseduceaman.net/?p=374#comment-3525 This is a hard one.. I had my jaw operated on a few weeks back and the surgeon and I hit off right away. I know he pays extra attention to me and checks me out even when im not looking (my friend saw). Even after the first consultation, he would text and call me to find out if I'm fine. Many a times we would have a drink after the consult, i would catch him looking at my legs, complimenting the way i look and finding excuses to touch my hands..after awhile, he started suggesting we should hang out together. He is a very young and handsome doctor.. I am so attracted to him. 3 weeks later, I found out from his colleague that he is married and i was so crushed !!! So I went a little bonkers and did some internet stalking. I've seen pictures of him with 2 babies on facebook...but none of his wife. Although I found a blog abt his wife writing 6 months into the marriage which is 6 years ago. Im just wondering, throughout all my interactions with him, he has never told me about his relationship status.. Also, I'm too afraid to ask him, because I'm afraid that if he knows I know, he would not give me the same attention as before. Right now Im enjoying his attention and the sexual tension is dense. Last night he kept texting all the things he wants to do with me when I meet him for the first time in a non-hospital setting. very sexual things. We haven't even set a date for the meet, and he's already thinking about these things. But today, he completely ignored both my text messages! They were very innocent text messages though. I'm at lost.. what is going on.. well, this is not the first time he ignored me. The first time was 2 weeks ago when he asked me to take him out for a movie. Ok i took like half and hour to reply to that one, saying maybe he should book a restaurant instead. But after, he just completely ignored me! we only started talking again because a few days after i was scheduled to see him at his office for a work-up. And then the flirting would start again...And we had drinks in the hospital after the consult. I'll be going interstate in a few days time, and i'd be far away until next december. This seems like the perfect opportunity for a fling.. but now i dont know if he wants to do this or not. Also, Im starting to get worried/sad that he didnt reply the whole day.. does this mean im slowly having feelings for him? In all honesty, I would proper date him if he were single. But right now knowing he is married, I just want to ease that sexual tension between us. But I dont know what he is thinking... and I am worried..would I get emotionally attached? would i get hurt if he doesnt want to see me next december as friends? even if the sex was just for a couple of days only. just before i fly off in a week's time.... This is a hard one..

I had my jaw operated on a few weeks back and the surgeon and I hit off right away. I know he pays extra attention to me and checks me out even when im not looking (my friend saw). Even after the first consultation, he would text and call me to find out if I’m fine. Many a times we would have a drink after the consult, i would catch him looking at my legs, complimenting the way i look and finding excuses to touch my hands..after awhile, he started suggesting we should hang out together. He is a very young and handsome doctor.. I am so attracted to him.

3 weeks later, I found out from his colleague that he is married and i was so crushed !!!
So I went a little bonkers and did some internet stalking. I’ve seen pictures of him with 2 babies on facebook…but none of his wife. Although I found a blog abt his wife writing 6 months into the marriage which is 6 years ago. Im just wondering, throughout all my interactions with him, he has never told me about his relationship status.. Also, I’m too afraid to ask him, because I’m afraid that if he knows I know, he would not give me the same attention as before.

Right now Im enjoying his attention and the sexual tension is dense.

Last night he kept texting all the things he wants to do with me when I meet him for the first time in a non-hospital setting. very sexual things. We haven’t even set a date for the meet, and he’s already thinking about these things. But today, he completely ignored both my text messages! They were very innocent text messages though. I’m at lost.. what is going on..

well, this is not the first time he ignored me. The first time was 2 weeks ago when he asked me to take him out for a movie. Ok i took like half and hour to reply to that one, saying maybe he should book a restaurant instead. But after, he just completely ignored me! we only started talking again because a few days after i was scheduled to see him at his office for a work-up. And then the flirting would start again…And we had drinks in the hospital after the consult.

I’ll be going interstate in a few days time, and i’d be far away until next december. This seems like the perfect opportunity for a fling.. but now i dont know if he wants to do this or not. Also, Im starting to get worried/sad that he didnt reply the whole day.. does this mean im slowly having feelings for him?

In all honesty, I would proper date him if he were single. But right now knowing he is married, I just want to ease that sexual tension between us. But I dont know what he is thinking… and I am worried..would I get emotionally attached? would i get hurt if he doesnt want to see me next december as friends? even if the sex was just for a couple of days only. just before i fly off in a week’s time….

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