Something which makes me cringe is when I see young girls or even grown women chasing the opposite sex. (Not to say that I haven’t been guilty of this behaviour myself!)
In all my years of observing men and women I’ve noticed that men need to be the pursuers. I Know this concept seems so old fashioned as we are living in a liberated age, we as women have voting rights, earn money and pretty much get to do what we want – well at least here in the west.
My observations have led me to believe that men are hunters and when women lay down at their feet they’ll just toy with them. Much like a cat with her killed mouse – throwing it up in the air and then walking away to never look at the thing again.
Now I know that men can be shy, which doesn’t surprise me – they’ve been told not to come across as a pervert. So it can make communication difficult. And yes I know you have the right to like a man and to even to pursue him. But how will you feel if he rejects you?
My main reason for being hard to get is firstly to protect yourself from rejection and secondly if he’s into you he won’t just give up like that. Obviously show that you’re interested. Flirt with him, enjoy the converstaion but don’t hope and expect that now you’ll be married for ever. Cause chances are he won’t ask you for your phone number or if he does he might not call you. He may call you and even go out with you and you’ll be feeling over the moon and then he may never call you again.
Don’t make excuses as to why he never called you – it’s not like he’s too busy or lost your number – he’s just not that into you. Accept it and move on. Don’t call with a lame excuse you just look silly in his eyes and are making your self vulnerable for feeling hurt.
In fact in my observations I’ve even noticed that in long standing happy relatonships the men were the pursuers of the woman. And even after x amount of years the woman is not a doormat and the man still is chasing her in a more subtle way. It’s not game playing – it’s just the way we as humans seem to be wired.
So my advice is play hard to get.
