People write in, asking me what an open relationship exactly is. It’s exactly that – open.

It means that each partner is free to have sex with some one else openly, no hiding, being devious or cheating. It means that both partners have an greement to be sexually free, even if they are married.

Often these type of  relationships take place between married people after being in a relationship for many years. Both agree that they want to live together, share finances, care for the grand kids and generally get old together but have sexual freedom.

Some people think it’s a cool set up but when in practice they can’t deal with the truth of it. Usually one partner is left feeling jealous and insecure, even though they agreed to it.  It’s not unusual for one partner to accept the situation because they don’t really want to leave or still love their partner, so they just go along with the arrangement. This can turn out to be hurtful so open relationships are only recommended for  couples that can deal with the consequences of it.

Generally though healthy relationships in western society are monogomous. In an open realtionship a woman can feel free to seduce a man and bring him home to the house she is living in with her current partner. Sometimes this even leads to a threesome in the bedroom. Personally I’ve encountered a couple of relationships where this type of freedom was being practised. Seems exciting and open minded but at the end there was resentment and pain and the relationship didn’t survive. Now I’m not saying this is the case all the time.

Some couples realise that they want sexual freedom but have a deep bonding with their partner based on friendship. They both agree to be together and have an open ended relationship.

Is it a good idea to have an open ended relationship? Can’t say, it all depends on the couple.

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Open Relationships

Great men are hard to find. So when you find one, don’t ruin your chances by making these deadly mistakes. Remember, attractive men have dated a lot of women so they know what’s going on. The result? They’ll disappear before you realize you’ve done anything wrong.

Here are 5 things that many women do that blow
their chances with their boyfriend, and how to avoid them.

• Mistake #1:
  Sharing your feelings with him too early

Men love their freedom and independence ­ no mysteries there! So when you announce that you love him, it often sets off a trigger that you might be
one of those “clingy types.” Remember that the early stages of dating should always remain casual.

Only after you get to know each other really well should you pursue anything further. It’s also worth mentioning that you can’t logically convince someone to fall in love with you. Falling in love is a process that happens outside the conscious mind ­ remember that. Which brings me to…

• Mistake #2:
  Trying to push it too far too soon

It’s natural to wonder about the nature of your relationship, “Does he want more? Or is this just a fling?” But remember, if you start talking about
marriage after only 12 months, you could ruin your chances to take things further. And if you don’t live together, cooking dinner or doing his laundry
isn’t a good idea.

A nice meal once in a while is okay, but don’t make it a regular thing. Yes, it’s true, many men are scared of commitment; but just because they don’t want it now, doesn’t mean they don’t want to settle down. They just need time.

• Mistake #3:
  Being too available

You might think this is playing a mind game or being manipulative, but putting your best side forward is also manipulative.

Why? Because it’s done to get a desirable outcome. This is simply a reminder to be who you were before you met the man and continue to be that person,
rather than use trickery.

Remember that your busy, interesting and fun life only has so much time for him, no matter how much you like him. And remember, men love a challenge, so this actually works in your favor.

• Mistake #4:
  Not being yourself

Men love confident women with a strong sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, women often try to guess how the man wants them to act and try to
accommodate his mold, which leaves very little room for your own personality to shine. (And yes, men do this too.) In other words, they love her strength. It’s very attractive.

• Mistake #5:
  Appealing to his sexual side too much

Believe it or not, it’s NOT make-up, dyed hair, pretty clothes or even nice shoes that attract men, not into a successful long-term relationships
anyway! While “looks” is the obvious factor that seems to get an instant response from men, long-term success comes with finding a man who
admires and respects you regardless of your exterior. If your man only likes you for your looks, then he doesn’t really love you.

So there you have it. The 5 big mistakes that women make while they’re dating men. Avoid these mistakes and you’ll dramatically increase the chances of succeeding with him.

Have you made 1 of these mistakes and want him back? Then I think Michael Webbs book Getting Him Back can help. Give it a try.

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5 Dating Mistakes That Women Make With Men

I know some people think it’s not polite to talk about things like bacterial vaginosis but we have to have that talk. Don’t feel embarrassed.

Do you have any of these symptoms?

• A vaginal odor
• Burning vaginal itch
• A white vaginal discharge

Those symptoms are an indication that you have a bacterial vaginosis. But never fear, I’m here to tell you the causes. If you know the cause then it’s easy to get the cure.

• Sex
  Having sex at a young age
  Having more than one sexual partner
  Having sex with more than one partner at once ie a three some.By having sex foreign bacteria can move into the vagina.  The foreign bacteria is out to invade the good, clean healthy bacteria. The good bacteria can’t deal with the onslaught of  foreign bacteria and pretty quickly bacterial vaginosis sets in.
• Douching
  Douching and washing the vagina because you want it to be squeaky clean is not a good idea. The reason being that all the washing and douching is rinsing the vaginal flora out of the system therby making space for all the bad bacteria. The bad bacteria has no resistance and can live happily ever after.I’m not saying never wash, just be reasonable. Rinsing with warm water on the outside is good enough. You don’t need to get in there and rinse!
• Underwear
  Get your self some sexy cotton under wear. This gives the good bacteria a chance to breath so it can continue to provide immunities to the bad bacteria.  So think about it next time you want to swaddle your bod into skin tight jeans. Your nunu needs to breathe.
  
• Food
  Ah food is one of my next favorite subjects besides men, love and sex. What you eat contributes a lot to whether you will have bacterial vaginosis or not. (I have another blog where I’ve written the truth about nutrition, feel free to read it.)
  Diary products can play a big role in contributing to Bacterial Vaginosis.

Get a cure for bacterial vaginosis once and for all by reading Bacterial Vaginosis Freedom . Every thing you need to know is explained in easy terms. You don’ need to be a medical doctor to understand what’s going on with your vagina. This book offers a natural cure for bacteria vaginosis.

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Bacterial Vaginosis eating up your Love Pot?

I know a lot of ladies desire to get a man they can make a deep connection with. (And I don’t mean that sexually, although that is an added advantage. And just by the way what is wrong with wanting a man that fulfills you emotionally and sexually?)

But how do you go about finding that special man?

Via an online meeting place. Now before you start rolling your eyes and shaking your head, may I ask you why not?

I mean these days people spend a good amount of their time online, so it stands to reason that you may as well meet somebody online. Sure there are jerks online, but there are jerks every where. You have to choose unjerky ones.

Emily McKay is a great example of having met her dream man online.  By the way Emily is totally fun and cute. I’ve interviewed her twice you can listen here.

Emily knows a thing or 2 about how to choose the man that is right for you. Her methods may even seem cold blooded, especially when she suggests the spread sheet thing. Seriously she says you should evluate the men from 1 to 100.  The guy who has the hundred points after you’ve evaluated him for all his traits – (each trait has it’s own amount of points) is the man for you. For example you draw up a spread sheet that goes something like this:

• Telling the truth – now you know he has lied to you before so you give him 50 points out of a hundred.

• Punctual – so although he’s lied to you, up until now he was always on time so you give him a 100 points.

• Attraction -  you feel a bit attracted but it’s not like, oh my God, get moist between the legs  just thinking about him, so you give him 60 points.

She has a whole list of very important things you should be looking out for.

Besides knowing what you should be looking out for, she knows how to write a good online profile which will attract men.

Here’s some vids of her, giving her coy advice. She is too cute – no wonder Scott adores her.  Scott by the way is the kind of man you want: masculine, respectful, intelligent and good looking.  I also have one of those in my house. (Okay he is getting a bit plump but he’s still adorable & I wouldn’t change him for Brad Pitt. He says his spare tyre is a sign of  happiness & contentment to be with skinny old me.)

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Honestly you gotta trust me when I tell you Click with Him is the best program on the entire internet for meeting a man online.  I have a lot of so called dating coaches asking me to promote their drivel.  Click with Him is a no bull shit, honest to goodness serious program that will teach you how to focus on getting a the full blooded, decent male that you dream about. Hello, settling for any man is not what the game is about. Oh and I did mention all the other juicy information that comes with the package?

Gotta love MiaFarrow for saying, ” a man in the house is worth 2 on the street”!

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How to get a Man that you Click with

A lot can be said for making eye contact with a man you’re after. It’s a simple flirting technique – look and then look away. Demurely.

But a lot more can be read into a gaze than meets the eye. I’m also learning a lot in life and discovered this video today about eye contact which I’m delighted to be able to share with you.

Now you’ll be able to tell whether a man is listening and paying attention to you or not.

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Analysing Eye Contact

Something which makes me cringe is when I see young girls or even grown women chasing the opposite sex.  (Not to say that I haven’t been guilty of this behaviour myself!)

In all my years of observing men and women I’ve noticed that men need to be the pursuers. I Know this concept seems so old fashioned as we are living in a liberated age, we as women have voting rights, earn money and pretty much get to do what we want – well at least here in the west.

My observations have led me to believe that men are hunters and when women lay down at their feet they’ll just toy with them. Much like a cat with her killed mouse – throwing it up in the air and then walking away to never look at the thing again.

Now I know that men can be shy, which doesn’t surprise me – they’ve been told not to come across as a pervert. So it can make communication difficult. And yes I know you have the right to like a man and to even to pursue him. But how will you feel if he rejects you?

My main reason for being hard to get is firstly to protect yourself from rejection and secondly if he’s into you he won’t just give up like that. Obviously show that you’re interested. Flirt with him, enjoy the converstaion but don’t hope and expect that now you’ll be married for ever. Cause chances are he won’t ask you for your phone number or if he does he might not call you. He may call you and even go out with you and you’ll be feeling over the moon and then he may never call you again.

Don’t make excuses as to why he never called you – it’s not like he’s too busy or lost your number – he’s just not that into you. Accept it and move on. Don’t call with a lame excuse you just look silly in his eyes and are making your self vulnerable for feeling hurt.

In  fact in my observations I’ve even noticed that in long standing happy relatonships the men were the pursuers of the woman. And even after x amount of years the woman is not a doormat and the man still is chasing her in a more subtle way. It’s not game playing – it’s just the way we as humans seem to be wired.

So my advice is play hard to get.

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Hard to Get

I noticed to my dismay when checking my web stats that a few people land up on this blog because they want to know how to seduce a married man.

Seducing a married man is the same as seducing any man but why the hell would you want to knowingly seduce a married man? Unless of course you enjoy suffering cos ultimately you will feel pain.

It may appear exciting and even convenient in the beginning. A juicy relationship without the committment. You never have to wash his shirts, pick up his socks or comfort him.

Eventually you’ll feel pissed off about him being married.

You’ll be wondering if he’s sleeping with his wife when he’s not with you. Christmas and other holidays will feel lonely.

I’ve never seen a happy outcome. I have women and men friends that have got them selves into a mess by being involved with some one else. The men i know who have been involved have all confessed to me when the “other woman” starts nagging about his other life they feel more compelled to end the affair, rather than leave the wife.

Seducing a married man is no different to seducing any man. I wrote the Seduction Diva’s Cheat Sheet which is an easy way of seducing a man. But beware because seduction doesn’t mean you’ll be winning his love.

All too often women are upset that the man they’re having sex with isn’t really giving them what they really desire – love, respect, devotion and honesty.

Before you go seducing the married man remember that he has officially devoted him self to another woman and you will be his secret liason.

I do believe married men are unhappy with their wives or they wouldn’t be seducable in the first place.  Even so he is still officially married to his wife – he has to deal with his own feelings of guilt.

In my opinion it’s best to save your seduction power for available men.

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How to Seduce a Married Man

What woman in her heart doesn’t desire to be beautiful? I’ve met woman that have given me reasons why they aren’t beautiful or they’ve told me a man should accept them for what they are. This is true – we should always accept another person for who they are. But that doesn’t mean we can’t make the most of ourselves now does it? One of the most coveted qualities a woman can have is natural beauty. And this my friend is the easiest thing to acquire.

The cosmetic industry spends billions of dollars on advertising to make women feel like inferior frumps. So that women will buy their stuff. This stuff is no guarantee for beauty.
Yes some people are born with a disfigurement or a serious birthmark over the face – but still nothing in the world can stop a person from smiling. Many times I’ve been blown away by a person’s warm hearted smile, so that everything else has been over looked.
You just need to watch Nick Vujicic on YouTube to know how beautiful a person can be, even without arms and legs!
Modern laser treatment can severely diminish skin blemishes like birthmarks.
These secrets I’m about to reveal are so simple and so natural. What else besides natural stuff is going to maintain that natural beauty we were born with?

• Diet
  What a person eats is what they become. No joke. Choice of food is of utmost importance. Cigarettes, fuzzy drinks, burgers and fries rob the body of beauty. My choice is organically grown fruit and vegetables – eaten raw . Seriously you don’t see animals in the wild boiling grass or charring zebras. And don’t even try to tell me aah but we are higher on the evolution scale. Being higher on the evolution scale does not mean we have to destroy essential nutrients in our food by chemical food processes.

  Food affects the body right down to a cellular level. The body needs nutrients for the blood, bones, muscles and cells. Everything that is not feeding the body is just dumping junk into it. Eating healthy doesn’t have to be boring rabbit food – I eat plenty of hot (as in flavor) and delicious meals. Chocolate anyone? Mmm the cacao bean is actually a super food. In fact David Wolf the world’s nutritional expert wrote a whole book about chocolate. Eat it raw and unprocessed. There are plenty recipes for delicious chocolate treats. I for one eat it nearly every day.

  Changing to a diet of raw food means eating with out guilt! Besides once your body is getting the nutrients it needs the brain stops putting pressure to eat, eat, eat because at long last it is getting what it needs.

• Cosmetics
  Skin is the biggest organ on the body. What we rub onto our skin is absorbed into the body. A lot of cosmetics are derived from the petrol industry. Uughh! Choose cosmetics that are derived from organic plants.

  Even better make your own cosmetics – just do a google and you’ll find recipes for mixing your own creams, shampoos and toothpaste. A treat for the skin and a saving for the budget!

  Bodies that are fed healthily have less need of a deodorant. When a body has a bad odor from the vagina, arm pits or mouth it’s a sign that all is not well. Fix up the diet and odor will disappear.

• Fitness
  I’ll admit I’m amazingly lazy. But I can touch my toes, do the splits and take a long walk without getting out of breath. Just by the way I’m 46 and still the same size I was way back when.

  The body needs movement to make the blood flow. Good circulation gives your eyes a sparkle and your skin clarity. In no way I’m advocating strenuous work outs at the gym. Life has to be fun. Right? Stretching exercises and leisurely walks in the fresh air suffice, provided the body is getting the right diet.

• Rest
  Funnily enough once the body gets the right food it doesn’t need so much sleep! Even so, a good rest is essential for maintaining natural beauty.

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Secrets of Natural Beauty

If you’ve ever wondered if men find mom’s sexy then you simply have to read on. What you’re about to read was written by non other than Scot McKay who is the leading man in the “how to seduce women” industry. I’ll admit I peek around to see what men are thinking. I need to know so I can report back to you. But back to Scot – he is an honest, masculine man who teaches men, not the usual slimy pick up trash but rather how to attract a great woman like your self. This is a newsletter which he sent out to his men and i have full permsission to publish it. So here goes:

I can’t believe the mixed-messages our media-driven society sends regarding today’s topic.

If you watch daytime television or Lifetime Network (which I don’t, whenever possible) you’ll be hit with commercials depicting some hot mommies doing their typical superhuman things, including dealing with several toddlers while looking good doing it.

Then, watch late-night television (which I also don’t, whenever possible) and you’ll be hit with infomercials designed to make women feel self-conscious about what motherhood has done to their physical appearance.

Whatever. You know from last week’s newsletter how I feel about what the media has done to screw up our concept of what really is attractive to the opposite sex. So make no mistake about it. Motherhood can be, and I would argue usually is, sexy. In just about every way.

The low hanging fruit here (no, not that) is the rise of MILFdom in recent years. If you are unfamiliar with the term look it up elsewhere, but for all intents and purposes MILF = sexy mom.

For some reason, and a good one, even younger guys have figured out that Stacey’s Mom Has Got It Going On. That’s no joke either. If you are a 35-year-old woman with an online profile, you might be getting “messages” from younguns who haven’t even cleared college age yet. No, this isn’t some weird (and recurring) software error. They’re digging you.

I have personally been out with several women in their thirties who had daughters at a very young age. These kids are now in high school. Each mama had a story to tell when I asked if there’s ever an issue when their daughters’ little boy friends meet mom. Um…yeah. One woman even has a pact with her daughter that they won’t date anyone closer in age to the other than themselves. Hilarious, but true.

How about before a woman has even given birth–during her pregnancy? Yeah ladies, we know…us guys hear all the time how “fat, etc.” you are getting. You feel disgusting. Well, you aren’t. ESPECIALLY to the Dad. Now we aren’t talking about man-boy Idiot/Jerks here who either 1) are using a woman’s pending new family commitment
(and the fact that presumably she wouldn’t dare leave him while in that “condition”) as an excuse to throw down with every chickie babe silly enough to let him have a piece, or… 2) …who are just flat out morons.

Mama, if your man loves you, he loves you pregnant. When he tells you that you are beautiful, will you please believe it? That’s his kid going on in there! In fact, some guys are turned on by pregnant women in general, and there are Web sites to prove it.

If you look at scientific studies on how heterosexual men and women become attracted to one another, it often comes down to archetypal response to pointers of fertility. I mean, let’s face it: sexual attraction, from the natural aspect, comes down to procreation. He or she who is more fertile is more attractive.

Fertility and gene-pool quality (which is another topic altogether) are a large part of what makes us attractive to the opposite gender. So here it is: I you are a mom already, it makes sense that your proven fertility is going to make you attractive to men. If you want to argue with me on this, go for it, but I believe very strongly that this is the case.

At the very least, men often are not turned off by the physical effects of pregnancy like women somehow seem to believe. On top of all else, don’t be surprised that many guys–if they are man enough to admit it–actually have no issue with the stretch marks and any other evidence that you have been pregnant before. I personally believe that caesarian scars are sexy. And I’m not weird.

So is this only all about looking good? I really don’t think so. There is something about motherhood that changes a woman. Nurturing in a feminine gift, and never is it displayed in all of its glory more profoundly than through motherhood. Not all guys understand this pragmatically, but many respond positively to such things–even if subconsciously. After all, femininity attracts masculinity by definition.

And then there’s confidence, as another example. I know, “Yeah, yeah…confidence is attractive.” You’ve heard it before. But still, moms tend to learn life’s tough lessons about responsibility. Especially single moms. Any guy who wants to find an amazing woman–one with a confident attitude to take on the world with–should hang out with a single mom or two. Nuff said.

And, you know what? It might not hurt to add how fatherhood tends to be a turn on for women also, specially…moms. Big surprise there, right? Have you ever noticed that moms and dads really tend to appreciate each other–and at the raw attraction level? Yeah, well, I’m a Dad…and I absolutely have.

Be good,

Scot

By the way you can learn exactly how to reel in a guy like Scot from Emily McKay. Scot wrote that newsletter even before he met and married Emily. Click with Him was put together by Emily and goes into every minute detail of what thoughts and actions a woman can take to get Mr. Right. It’s no hocus pocus, scammy stuff but the real deal. At least sign up for her FREE informative and entertaining newsletter which is right on the front page. CLICK WITH HIM

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Do Men find Motherhood Sexy?

This may come as a surprise but there are  8 million people out there who are “psycopathic enough” to destroy other peoples lives. Yikes.

And what’s worse is we as women are responsible for attracting these men into our lives. So slap me for writing that. Just to set the record straight I’ve been there, done that and worn the T-Shirt.

So I know what I’m talking about.  Being with a psycopath isn’t funny or romantic, even if the sex is great.

Men that call you names, swear at you, make you feel bad are abusing you. Some women think that if a man isn’t actually beating them up then it’s okay. It’s not okay. Ever.

These men often say, it’s your fault you make them crazy like that. Don’t fall for it or accept the blame but do know one thing now hold on to your seat cause this is going to shock you: You atrract the men you get into your life. Yes I attracted the Pyscopath into my life because I had a bad boy syndrome.

I believed other nice men to be boring. I wanted fun, adventure and wild sex. I melted when he held me in his arms and told me how he loves fucking me. Those moments made me feel like I was in heaven. And he knew it.

I realised quite soon into my relationship that the man had issues but I made excuses for him. I thought he needs love and acknowledgement. I was going to save him. I was going to transform the frog into a prince. No matter how much kissing I did the prince never emerged. It was an emotional rollercoaster of ups and downs. Is that excitement and fun?

I must have been crazy to put up with it for so many years. Even after I had ended the relationship I still dreamt about him.

One day I bumped into him at the store. I went to buy cigarettes. (In those days I still smoked.) It took only 10 minutes for him to persuade me to go back to his house with him, just for coffee. Coffee haha. We had sex till the cows came home. But what I haven’t mentioned yet is I already had a date with another man who also was pyscopathic as I discovered that night.  The date soon pitched wielding a gun.

The drama of that night was definately caused by me. Firstly I run off with my ex pyscopathic live in lover, missing my date with the next sociopath. At least my eyes were opened quickly to what the next date was about. I cancelled all my arrangements with the gungho boy but I always had a weak spot for my original physocpathic lover. Till the day he committed suicide.

One would think with suicide the game is over. But no – all that self tormenting – I mean he had repeatedly threatened me with suicide. I was telling myself only a real bitch would not care. You know what? I’ve become that bitch.

Who needs crap like that in life? You stop functioning – all you have on your mind is him – wondering if tonite you’ll be in heaven or hell.

Admittedly I was no longer involved with him when I got the news of his suicide but it still affected me. A lot.

Okay so the truth is he is the father of my twin daughters. There, now you know and I have it off my chest.

During pregnancy I lay awake thinking about how on earth I got myself knocked up. It wasn’t like I was a kid. I was 31 for God’s sake. A woman should know better by that age. On reflection the I was meant to have these 2 kids because our relationship ended with my pregnancy. Just like that. Actually I got pregnant during that crazy night I mentioned already. We lived together for 6 years and during that time I had 2 abortions. So when pregnancy 3 came along I decided to go through with the pregnancy but not with the relationship.

My girls are wonderful – they saved me from myself.  I gave up smoking, stopped clubbing and changed myself from the inside out.

I’m no longer bait for that kind of a man because I don’t send out the same signals anymore.

We are all broadcasting some message to the world wether we believe it or not. How else can you explain why you’ve got what you’ve got? Huh? Think about it. If you want to listen to jazz on the radio you don’t tune into a station thats playing rock. Same goes for our lives if we want to attract caring men we gotta stop sending out the signal that attracts those we don’t want.

The reasons for broadcasting the wrong signals are deep and will be another post.

Soooo if like me, you’ve landed yourself a pyscopath now or in the past, or maybe unknowingly in the future,  you need to read Women Who Love Psycopaths.  You will learn what traits a women has that makes herself vulnerable to a psycopath/sociopath. This is required reading – it’s been thoroughly researched. It’s not a study of yet another pyscopath rather a study of  the women that attract them.

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So you Landed yourself a Psychopath?