Great men are hard to find. So when you find one, don’t ruin your chances by making these deadly mistakes. Remember, attractive men have dated a lot of women so they know what’s going on. The result? They’ll disappear before you realize you’ve done anything wrong.

Here are 5 things that many women do that blow
their chances with their boyfriend, and how to avoid them.

• Mistake #1:
  Sharing your feelings with him too early

Men love their freedom and independence ­ no mysteries there! So when you announce that you love him, it often sets off a trigger that you might be
one of those “clingy types.” Remember that the early stages of dating should always remain casual.

Only after you get to know each other really well should you pursue anything further. It’s also worth mentioning that you can’t logically convince someone to fall in love with you. Falling in love is a process that happens outside the conscious mind ­ remember that. Which brings me to…

• Mistake #2:
  Trying to push it too far too soon

It’s natural to wonder about the nature of your relationship, “Does he want more? Or is this just a fling?” But remember, if you start talking about
marriage after only 12 months, you could ruin your chances to take things further. And if you don’t live together, cooking dinner or doing his laundry
isn’t a good idea.

A nice meal once in a while is okay, but don’t make it a regular thing. Yes, it’s true, many men are scared of commitment; but just because they don’t want it now, doesn’t mean they don’t want to settle down. They just need time.

• Mistake #3:
  Being too available

You might think this is playing a mind game or being manipulative, but putting your best side forward is also manipulative.

Why? Because it’s done to get a desirable outcome. This is simply a reminder to be who you were before you met the man and continue to be that person,
rather than use trickery.

Remember that your busy, interesting and fun life only has so much time for him, no matter how much you like him. And remember, men love a challenge, so this actually works in your favor.

• Mistake #4:
  Not being yourself

Men love confident women with a strong sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, women often try to guess how the man wants them to act and try to
accommodate his mold, which leaves very little room for your own personality to shine. (And yes, men do this too.) In other words, they love her strength. It’s very attractive.

• Mistake #5:
  Appealing to his sexual side too much

Believe it or not, it’s NOT make-up, dyed hair, pretty clothes or even nice shoes that attract men, not into a successful long-term relationships
anyway! While “looks” is the obvious factor that seems to get an instant response from men, long-term success comes with finding a man who
admires and respects you regardless of your exterior. If your man only likes you for your looks, then he doesn’t really love you.

So there you have it. The 5 big mistakes that women make while they’re dating men. Avoid these mistakes and you’ll dramatically increase the chances of succeeding with him.

Have you made 1 of these mistakes and want him back? Then I think Michael Webbs book Getting Him Back can help. Give it a try.

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5 Dating Mistakes That Women Make With Men

If you’ve ever wondered if men find mom’s sexy then you simply have to read on. What you’re about to read was written by non other than Scot McKay who is the leading man in the “how to seduce women” industry. I’ll admit I peek around to see what men are thinking. I need to know so I can report back to you. But back to Scot – he is an honest, masculine man who teaches men, not the usual slimy pick up trash but rather how to attract a great woman like your self. This is a newsletter which he sent out to his men and i have full permsission to publish it. So here goes:

I can’t believe the mixed-messages our media-driven society sends regarding today’s topic.

If you watch daytime television or Lifetime Network (which I don’t, whenever possible) you’ll be hit with commercials depicting some hot mommies doing their typical superhuman things, including dealing with several toddlers while looking good doing it.

Then, watch late-night television (which I also don’t, whenever possible) and you’ll be hit with infomercials designed to make women feel self-conscious about what motherhood has done to their physical appearance.

Whatever. You know from last week’s newsletter how I feel about what the media has done to screw up our concept of what really is attractive to the opposite sex. So make no mistake about it. Motherhood can be, and I would argue usually is, sexy. In just about every way.

The low hanging fruit here (no, not that) is the rise of MILFdom in recent years. If you are unfamiliar with the term look it up elsewhere, but for all intents and purposes MILF = sexy mom.

For some reason, and a good one, even younger guys have figured out that Stacey’s Mom Has Got It Going On. That’s no joke either. If you are a 35-year-old woman with an online profile, you might be getting “messages” from younguns who haven’t even cleared college age yet. No, this isn’t some weird (and recurring) software error. They’re digging you.

I have personally been out with several women in their thirties who had daughters at a very young age. These kids are now in high school. Each mama had a story to tell when I asked if there’s ever an issue when their daughters’ little boy friends meet mom. Um…yeah. One woman even has a pact with her daughter that they won’t date anyone closer in age to the other than themselves. Hilarious, but true.

How about before a woman has even given birth–during her pregnancy? Yeah ladies, we know…us guys hear all the time how “fat, etc.” you are getting. You feel disgusting. Well, you aren’t. ESPECIALLY to the Dad. Now we aren’t talking about man-boy Idiot/Jerks here who either 1) are using a woman’s pending new family commitment
(and the fact that presumably she wouldn’t dare leave him while in that “condition”) as an excuse to throw down with every chickie babe silly enough to let him have a piece, or… 2) …who are just flat out morons.

Mama, if your man loves you, he loves you pregnant. When he tells you that you are beautiful, will you please believe it? That’s his kid going on in there! In fact, some guys are turned on by pregnant women in general, and there are Web sites to prove it.

If you look at scientific studies on how heterosexual men and women become attracted to one another, it often comes down to archetypal response to pointers of fertility. I mean, let’s face it: sexual attraction, from the natural aspect, comes down to procreation. He or she who is more fertile is more attractive.

Fertility and gene-pool quality (which is another topic altogether) are a large part of what makes us attractive to the opposite gender. So here it is: I you are a mom already, it makes sense that your proven fertility is going to make you attractive to men. If you want to argue with me on this, go for it, but I believe very strongly that this is the case.

At the very least, men often are not turned off by the physical effects of pregnancy like women somehow seem to believe. On top of all else, don’t be surprised that many guys–if they are man enough to admit it–actually have no issue with the stretch marks and any other evidence that you have been pregnant before. I personally believe that caesarian scars are sexy. And I’m not weird.

So is this only all about looking good? I really don’t think so. There is something about motherhood that changes a woman. Nurturing in a feminine gift, and never is it displayed in all of its glory more profoundly than through motherhood. Not all guys understand this pragmatically, but many respond positively to such things–even if subconsciously. After all, femininity attracts masculinity by definition.

And then there’s confidence, as another example. I know, “Yeah, yeah…confidence is attractive.” You’ve heard it before. But still, moms tend to learn life’s tough lessons about responsibility. Especially single moms. Any guy who wants to find an amazing woman–one with a confident attitude to take on the world with–should hang out with a single mom or two. Nuff said.

And, you know what? It might not hurt to add how fatherhood tends to be a turn on for women also, specially…moms. Big surprise there, right? Have you ever noticed that moms and dads really tend to appreciate each other–and at the raw attraction level? Yeah, well, I’m a Dad…and I absolutely have.

Be good,

Scot

By the way you can learn exactly how to reel in a guy like Scot from Emily McKay. Scot wrote that newsletter even before he met and married Emily. Click with Him was put together by Emily and goes into every minute detail of what thoughts and actions a woman can take to get Mr. Right. It’s no hocus pocus, scammy stuff but the real deal. At least sign up for her FREE informative and entertaining newsletter which is right on the front page. CLICK WITH HIM

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Do Men find Motherhood Sexy?

Hi,

I’ve just watched this amazing talk by Helen Fisher on the science of love and the future of women in our society.

Now for many people Helen Fisher embodies feminism in a negative way. Just because she is clever and says empowering things about women. She talks about women being equal people but doesn’t deny that men and women are wired very differently. She says women love to yack. We are programmed that way.

There are those that criticize her for saying women are taking their place back in the job market. So what? She hasn’t undervalued a women’s position as a nurturer and educator – she says that’s exacctly what makes women such excellent communicators.

I’ll admit I’m a feminist. To me feminism represents being feminine without being self sacrificing. What’s wrong with that?

Anyway just watch this video with Helen Fisher and decide for yourself.

The part about anti depressants is important – pay attention!

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Orgasm, Depression & Feminism

Why you Shouldn’t sleep with a Man on the First Date.

I know the title of this article will cause some ladies to turn up their noses in disbelief of what I’m writing because after all we’re living in a liberated age and it is 2008 already. Plus I have written before hand on how to have good sex, how to seduce a man, how to flirt with men and so forth.

Now I’m suggesting you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date.

What’s going on here?, you may be asking yourself.

What’s going on is that a man thinks, “she’s too easy.” Even if you’re connecting really well and you feel like you’ve known him for a hundred years on the first date I’m suggesting that you should not take that step.

Why I’m suggesting this is because I want to protect you from getting hurt and not because I want to uphold a false sense of morals. I’m not square and I’m not holy. I’m a full blooded woman who has also made the mistake of bedding a man too soon.

The point is that all the women I have spoken to on the subject of dating men have revealed to me that they sleep with men on the first date because they feel so connected. They also admit that they feel terribly hurt when he never calls again. I know I’ve been in that place before.

The reason he doesn’t call again is because he got what he wanted. The men I have interviewed have all told me that well if they can get sex they won’t say no.

Men are designed by nature to want sex whereas women want love and think by having sex they’re partaking in love.

It’s confusing I know. In some cases having sex the first time doesn’t mean he won’t call you but it can mean that it will be a relationship based on only connecting sexually. That’s fine if you want that but if you’re looking to meet a man that you can enter into a committed relationship with then you’ll require something more than just a sexual attraction.

I’m not even putting a time line on when you should have sex for the first time because in truth individuals are all different and relationships develop differently.

All I ask of you is to think whether you want him to call again or whether you want to be the one night stander. The chances are that even if you don’t sleep with him the first time is that he won’t call you again anyway. But then won’t you be glad that you didn’t sleep with him? And don’t go thinking he didn’t call you again because you didn’t sleep with him.

Not going to bed with him the first time is a sign of self respect.

Most people forget what sex actually is. In the bible it’s referred to as the becoming of one flesh. Bodily fluids are being exchanged on the most intimate levels. Do you really want to chemicalise with some body you don’t know that well yet?

I see it this way: my body is the temple of my soul – I’m just not going to let anybody in there until I know what their intentions are.

Me, I personally have been in a committed relationship for over 5 years now but remember only even kissing him for the first time when I knew that the friend ship was bonded.

I know there is a lot of seduction advice especially for men. They teach men to not be one of those men where women say, “let’s just be friends.” Rather they teach men how to seduce a woman so that she succumbs and goes to bed with him as quickly as possible.

For me personally friendship is important – I want the man I’m sleeping with to be my friend as well. I can’t imagine having a good relationship with a man that is only based on sex. Believe me, I was there for many years – waiting for him. When he did visit all we did was have sex. Those were not happy years.

So next time you meet a wonderful man and get that connected feeling just remember what you read today in this blog.

Video of the Day:
Women that F**k on the first Date

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Now that you’ve had a man’s point of view I trust you won’t think I’m such a square!

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Why you Shouldn’t Sleep with Him on the First Date